Safety and Stabilization
In order for someone to do their best work, they have to be in a position of safety, whether that be physical or emotional. This stage might involve putting safety plans in place or developing coping strategies. Basically, let's figure out how you can manage day-to-day stressors before we start processing deeper work.
For example, let's say that you come to counselling hoping to work on your anxiety. During this stage, we would look at ways to reduce the symptoms of anxiety so that you can get through your day or stressful moments.
Processing
At this stage we look more deeply at presenting issues in order to understand their root causes. (Using our earlier example, we would explore what incidents in your life led to the start of your anxiety). This part of the process can be painful as we bring up thoughts, beliefs, emotions and memories that you may have actively tried to avoid. This could entail traditional talk therapy or even EMDR therapy.
Reconnection
As we begin to put the past into context and resolve your intense feelings about them, your thoughts, feelings, and even beliefs can change. Using the earlier example, perhaps the anxiety you came to address is no longer present and allows you to connect with people on a deeper level. This part can look different for each individual, but ultimately it is about learning to live a life where you no longer carry the burdens from your past.